The current generation of teenagers and young adults has been living with media and technology from birth. They’re the first generation to grow up not only with high-definition, 24/7 cable TV and computers at home, but also with instant messaging, online social networking, music and video downloads to MP3 players and iPods, and cell phones that double as cameras and mini-computers. They’re often referred to as screenagers, a term Douglas Rushkoff first used in his 1997 book, Playing the Future. Compared to earlier generations, they’re comfortable and competent with technology, but they also face risks and hazards that were unknown to parents in past decades.

Electronic media has been correlated with a number of negative developmental outcomes for young people. Violent media, particularly related video games, have been shown to increase aggression and anti-social behavior, especially in males. In nearly every school shooting, the perpetrator has had an obsession with one or more violent video game. Exposure to violent media can lead to desensitization, a higher appetite for graphic violence, and less empathy for victims.

There are many other concerns as well. The more time students spend in front of a screen, the lower their grades and literacy levels. More recently, researchers, educators and parents have been concerned about the connection between media consumption and childhood obesity. Not only is most media viewing a sedentary activity; many of the food ads aimed at kids promote high-calorie, low-nutrient snacks and beverages. Screen time has also been implicated in what’s called Nature Deficit Disorder — the lack of involvement with and understanding of the outdoors and natural world.

Reassert Your Authority

• Let go of the small stuff, like messy handwriting and bad hairstyles. In the big picture, many of these things really don’t matter.
• Discuss your expec-tations with your teen and together determine the rules and the consequences for breaking these rules.
• Learn to communicate your authority assertively and concisely. Simple, firm, neutral messages work best.
• Follow through.
• Don’t withdraw your attention and affection, even when your kid is driving you crazy. Teens who are struggling need more parental connection, not less.

Are you a Pushover Parent?

The constant pushing can wear parents down and may lead to burnout. Take this test. “Yes” answers mean that you’re in danger of becoming a pushover parent.
1. Do you argue with your child a lot, even about minor things?
2. Are you afraid of your child’s emotions, especially anger and sadness?
3. Do you give in to your child when you’re tired or stressed?
4. Do you continue to reason and negotiate with your child even when he breaks rules?
5. Do you withdraw a consequence when your child apologizes or promises to do better?
6. Do you quit following through because your child says, “I don’t care!”
7. Do you leave your child alone because you’re afraid to find out what he’s been doing?